You should text him first if, youre reaching out to him to genuinely connect and communicate with him. If for any reason youre texting him based on worry, fear or anxiety. Such as, trying to “keep his interest” or manipulating him to do something for you.

Are guys scared to message first?

Its totally normal to be scared to send the first text, but youre ready to do it. Repeat these nine mantras, take some deep breaths, and get ready to type. And no matter what — youll find someone incredible to be with (if youre looking for a relationship), whether its this crush or not.