If hes suddenly or progressively unable to get or keep an erection long enough for sex, it can be concerning for both of you. While you might worry his lack of excitement means your relationship is on the rocks, there could be another explanation: a health condition called erectile dysfunction (ED).

Why does my husband struggle to get an erection?

In younger men, Shoskes says, the problem is most often psychological. Stress, depression, and performance anxiety, especially when in a new sexual situation, can be the cause. Medications, especially beta-blockers for high blood pressure and certain antidepressants, also can lead to erection problems.